It happens when you least expect it.
Boy is that a relevant phrase in my life.
Just when I became content with the single life, he crashed into my newfound world filling me with curiosity, uncertainty, and butterflies… lots of butterflies. But my intentions here are not to brag about this man and the time I’ve spent dating him. The intention is to stress the importance of my time without him.
Prior to meeting him I can recall a moment when I looked at myself in the mirror hanging on my door in my bedroom. It was one of those moments where I really looked at myself, my entire being. Does anyone else do that? It’s taking a step outside yourself and asking, “Who is this?” Well when I did it this time around, it was different than the last. I felt like I truly knew myself. And I was happy with that self.
My duration of singleness gave me an attitude and outlook I never got the opportunity to gain previously. I explored hobbies I was interested in, relationships I wished to strengthen, read books that opened my mind, and I created a new self. I was enjoying getting to know her. I wasn’t searching for anything except happiness, and I found a new form of unfamiliar happiness when I met him.
All too often I see girls scrambling to find their way out of the single life as soon as they’ve been thrown into it. Why do they reside all their strength in a man? Why is there greater curiosity about the next guy that walks into their life rather than their own self? You do yourself a disservice when you neglect the precious time of singleness because not only is it special, it is a rarity. You will not have it all your life. Regardless of if/when you find your person, life if going to be full of lonely seasons and ultimately the person getting you through it will have to be yourself.
It is for this reason that I will forever stress the importance of using your time of singleness to its fullest potential. Yes, you’re going to make mistakes, but those mistakes are a step in the right direction believe it or not. They’re a step closer to the person you’re meant to be, but maybe haven’t met yet. And in turn, that is a step towards a person who will rock your world in all the right ways. They’ll introduce you to an incomparable form of love you’ll hold not only for them, but for yourself as well. If you’re lucky like me, it will happen when you least expect it.